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Mar. 10th, 2015 08:41 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I'm a 49 year old childless woman. I might have been fertile at one time but I am not anymore. I look at people with children and think they must have a lot of guts, to have babies in a world like ours. And then there's the chaos of childrearing, the diapers left by the side of the road, the screaming brats in the grocery store, the traffic jams taking each child to their designated lessons and teams and events. There haven't been a lot of experiences that have made me regret not having children. A few moments of lingering and merging, but not enough to carry it through.
Even childless I want to give something to new generations, because it seems so sad to send young people out into the world without direction or inspiration. Where parents fail, family or community sometimes steps in. I see the baseball teams training in the park and the kids there are learning something useful. Coordination. Teamwork. I see a strong young woman on the tennis court who is obviously an ace, but who is toying with her two competitors, and idly watching me who is watching her. Will she have children? Perhaps not. Today I heard the daughter of a coworker say that she won't have children. Why not? Will she regret not having children? What will be her creative work in this world, if not baby making?
In many cultures a woman is of little or no use if she does not serve to birth and raise a brood of offspring for a man. Put the food on the table. Clean. What is a woman if she does none of this?
*new tag: legacy
Even childless I want to give something to new generations, because it seems so sad to send young people out into the world without direction or inspiration. Where parents fail, family or community sometimes steps in. I see the baseball teams training in the park and the kids there are learning something useful. Coordination. Teamwork. I see a strong young woman on the tennis court who is obviously an ace, but who is toying with her two competitors, and idly watching me who is watching her. Will she have children? Perhaps not. Today I heard the daughter of a coworker say that she won't have children. Why not? Will she regret not having children? What will be her creative work in this world, if not baby making?
In many cultures a woman is of little or no use if she does not serve to birth and raise a brood of offspring for a man. Put the food on the table. Clean. What is a woman if she does none of this?
*new tag: legacy
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Date: 2015-03-11 04:11 pm (UTC)Do you think childless men ask themselves the same questions? Is it inherent in we humans to feel like we didn't live as full a life if we don't have offspring, leave no living legacy?
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Date: 2015-03-11 04:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2015-03-11 04:46 pm (UTC)Which brings me around to another thing I often find myself mulling over... that our technology makes it so that we can pass on defective genes, thus weakening the human gene pool in general.
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Date: 2015-03-11 07:30 pm (UTC)If you haven't seen it yet, the movie Idiocracy takes a humorous look at one possible future in which people are dumbed down over generations. It's from 2006 and it wasn't well recognized (by me at least) at the time. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0387808/