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Date: 2011-10-31 06:42 am (UTC)For social and cultural worlds, i don't know if its a curse, but it is essential to be able to do this unless we just want to run around destroying whatever we don't understand.
For personal worlds, if someone wants to show me theirs, fine. Don't ask me to show you mine until you have been my good friend for a very long time. To be able to or to be unable not to intrude uninvited into someone else's personal world would definitely be a curse.
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Date: 2011-11-01 09:46 pm (UTC)I don't ask to see inside people's realities, but people unconsciously reveal themselves. It is a curse when I am surrounded by tortured souls, because I can't help but to see how much pain they are in, even when I'd rather not look. It's not because I'm prying, it's simply unavoidable without avoiding the person.
In print, it is far more difficult to see the unconscious part of a person, because the words that are generated in this format are a product of the neocortex. So I would have to "intrude" in order to get clues as to your inner reality, and I have no intention of doing so. Remotely I do not perceive your inner darkness, or your inner light to the same degree as I do in person.
So if you want to keep your distance and secrets, keep it all online. ....... and no matter how much of your thinking we know, we will never know you.
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Date: 2011-11-02 01:28 am (UTC)Today we have a veritable knowledge industry which an ape a psychic ability to get inside the person of another. If you know i am autistic, you can make a hundred more or less pretty good predictions about me; if you know i've been in a twelve-step program, you can make a dozen more. Most of these things are things you don't need to know and maybe should not know.
But if we come from different societies and cultures, there may be things we need to know about each other's society and culture to ensure that we will give proper respect to and not offend each other. One culture's blessing is another's curse, and so on.
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Date: 2011-11-02 04:10 am (UTC)PS: I have worked the 12 steps. It was a highly useful exercise in my process of growing up.
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Date: 2011-11-02 03:53 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-11-02 04:46 pm (UTC)For whatever reason I am real life friends with several folks who inhabit the autism spectrum. I notice that remote communications can be a little rough at times, but that their thought process is far more complex and interesting than that of "normal" people.
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Date: 2011-11-02 05:12 pm (UTC)On the other side, it maybe easier for people with autism to communicate electronically. My thought can appear more "normal" on the screen. I also am more mindful about limiiting my comments when i am writing than when i am speaking.
A former secretary tells a story about asking me a question which i spent five minutes answering. Her work demanded that she leave the office on an errand. When she returned twenty minutes later i was still "answering" her question. This doesn't happen when i type because i have to edit for spelling and in the process i also edit for content.
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Date: 2011-11-02 05:28 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-11-02 07:20 pm (UTC)Dianne tells me i am always "ignoring" cues. such a simple question as "who is this i'm talking to?" can be a puzzle. I once failed to recognize my daughter when she walked into a room unexpectedly,
I get a lot of undeserved credit for being a faithful husband simply because i cannot tell when someone is "coming on" to me. Only twice have i felt "chemistry" between me and a person of the other sex. The second time was with Dianne, so i got that right. The first instance was a young woman who was just being a decent, friendly person and i totally misread her as being "romantic."
(Edit) Persons with autism may just find the physical presence of others to be confusing "noise" which impedes more than facilitates understanding.
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Date: 2011-11-02 07:40 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-11-02 08:10 pm (UTC)I have no theory of autism to discuss against yours. it is a mystery to me. Genetic inheritance may play some role, but who knows, it could just be early experience --post- or pre-natal. I am not aware of any blood relatives who are or were autistic (my son? maybe, and i don't communicate will with him at all well. We are like duelists, neither of whom can aim straight.)
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