Yep, that's her(him). S/he started out cautious until s/he determined that my friend and I are non-homophobic and not triggered by trans. I can see that Lee is troubled, and has caused a lot of trouble. I think I heard bits and pieces of the standard curb talk. I can also see that s/he sees at least some of the ways that trouble is brought to bear, and that changing all of that would involve not bringing it. I will leave her room to be what s/he is becoming, since I do not know her past. There is hope for this person too. I don't think it's in litigation, though.