It really was outgunned. I think I could have done better than the Archbishop and that woman, just based on my own extensive understanding of Catholic doctrines. The fact of me being able to do better would have nothing to do with my agreement with them; goodness knows I don't agree with them on many things, but I do have an understanding of their perspectives. And I think I could have presented those understandings in a way that others could have appreciated.

People often mistake understanding for agreement. As a therapist, I can assure them that nothing could be farther from the truth. I work hard to understand my clients, but never in my effort does my understanding lead me to embrace their views as "correct" above all other views. If I did that, I couldn't help them to see other perspectives, which is almost always where healing transformations are found.

The Archbishop did make one good point at the end- he said that the debate was no longer directed at the original question, and he was right. I assume that Fry and the other gentleman were saying (without really directly and simply stating) that because the church has these particular views on condom use and homosexuality, etc, that it was not a force for good in the world. That's... a bit thin, but the real problem is that the debate really can't proceed until we can agree on what "good for the world" really means.

That's the real debate- what's good for the world? What can we all agree is good for the world? Those questions were never discussed.