Cool. As a woman, I appreciate your yielding some decision making power to the womb-holder. As an analytical thinker, I have to point out that an infant under 1 year of age really has no "self" yet. You might see them as a self but really they have not developed the brain capacity to be an "I", rather, they are completely dependent on caregivers and unable to recognize themselves as being distinct from their mother and/or tribe.